GoTeamKate
  • GoTeamKate
  • MomBeast (Couch to Crossfit)
  • Entertainment/Shopping
  • Contact Us
  • Writing Services
  • Basic Bitch Baking
  • Photos by Kate
  • Photo Gallery
  • Diary of a Dad
  • The Diagnosis
  • Shanell's Portfolio
  • Shop
  • Help and Advice

I talk about Autism, a lot

Blog Guilt:  Like I Need Something Else to Feel Guilty About

4/26/2013

2 Comments

 
Picture
When I started this blog I made a decision for Kate.  In reality, I made a decision for all of us.  I decided that I would share the details of Kate's autism diagnosis and our struggles and triumphs surrounding it. 

I don't remember if it occured to me to use fake names or try and protect our identity in some way.  Once, I began reading the other autism blogs, I realized that pseudonyms were common and it began to nag at me.  Have I shared too much?  Will Kate be angry someday?  Am I making things harder for Grace, who shys away from attention?  I have friends who would never put their children's pictures on facebook, let alone pen a diary detailing the best and the worst of it all.  I understand and I respect that.  I guess I have chosen another route. 

It rolls over in my mind sometimes, though. Will the things I write come back to haunt us?  Will Kate always live with us or will Kate be applying for school one day and upon googling her name will the admissions office decide she might not be the best fit for their program.  Will Grace be teased for the silly stories I post.  I am a teacher.  I know what kids are capable of in terms of cruelty.  Sometimes, I say to myself: I will stop when they are old enough to decide if they want to be a part of this or not.  Sometimes, I feel like I better stop now. 

Most of the time, however, I feel like this: 

Kate is in desperate need of the best services out there.  All children with autism are.  This blog allows networking and learning and is good for the whole family.  The community we are building around this site is crucial to accessing the best of the best in terms of services for Kate.  I have made priceless connections and learned so much from the people that follow this blog.  In the last six months ( has it only been six months?) I feel like I have written a post doc on autism.  I have read a stack of books taller than me (and I am tall) and it doesn't compare to the knowledge I have gained talking to other parents of children with autism. The pros far outweigh the cons. 

The members of Kate's team read this blog and they have insight into where Kate is in her development and information like that doesn't manifest in hourly office visits.  The members of her team understand our philiosphy as a family, in terms of austim treatment, because I have made sure it is clear without a doubt.  And one of the best parts; they work hard because they have grown to know and love Kate.  Truth be told, another motivator for working hard is that they probably don't want me to write about them if they don't :).

So, when the guilt creeps in, I try and remember the connections and the love that have come flooding in, all in support of Kate and our family and get to typing once again.

2 Comments
Tiffany
4/26/2013 05:25:58 am

I think you're doing an amazing job. Kate will appreciate everything you've done for her, and so will Grace :-)

Reply
Janet Hunt
4/26/2013 08:23:38 am

You are all doing such a great job! Never feel guilty for writing your true feelings. This blog helps so many who are struggling. We admire what you are doing:)

Reply

Your comment will be posted after it is approved.


Leave a Reply.

    Click Here to support my Patreon
    Happy Mail to:
    GoTeamKate

    27 Wellington Row
    Saint John, NB
    E2L 4S1
    I've been a tad overwhelmed with teaching Kindergarten during a pandemic (masks and all) butttttttt, I have not forgotten my sweet patr https://www.patreon.com/sunnyandsinclair
    https://www.patreon.com/sunnyandsinclair
    Click to Browse ETsy Shop
    Patreon
    Email Me

    Archives

    April 2022
    October 2020
    February 2020
    January 2020
    November 2019
    October 2019
    August 2019
    June 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    December 2013
    November 2013
    October 2013
    September 2013
    August 2013
    July 2013
    June 2013
    May 2013
    April 2013
    March 2013
    February 2013
    January 2013
    December 2012
    November 2012

    Author

    Grace and Kate's mom. (Shanell)

    RSS Feed

Contacts for Team Kate
Shanell Mouland
Alex Mouland

Blogs We Like
Rockstar Ronan


Links We Like
National Autism Centre
  The Greenspan Floortime Approach
  • GoTeamKate
  • MomBeast (Couch to Crossfit)
  • Entertainment/Shopping
  • Contact Us
  • Writing Services
  • Basic Bitch Baking
  • Photos by Kate
  • Photo Gallery
  • Diary of a Dad
  • The Diagnosis
  • Shanell's Portfolio
  • Shop
  • Help and Advice