I'm soft. I'm a pushover. Both of these statements are true. I give children with disabilities a pass because I refuse to add to their list. If giving them a break makes me wrong, I don't wanna be right.
Are you catching my drift?
Do you think I do this because I have able-bodied guilt? Wrong. Do you think I do it because I have a daughter with autism? Nope. I do it because when the cards are stacked against a little child and navigating their day takes every ounce of their energy, I will not be one more hurdle, one more challenge or one more pain in the ass for that little person .
Be firm if you must but tough love is bullshit. It doesn't work. It hurts. It promotes distrust and fear. Stop doing it to our most vulnerable. It is fine to be soft and safe. It is ideal to be kind and respectful. It is crucial to be thoughtful and fair.
Grace and Kate's mom. (Shanell)